Humor as a protective reaction

When the situation becomes encouraged, our brain is looking for a way out. Laughter is a way to reduce internal stress. And if one of the partners in the conflict knows how to subtly joke, he can remove the intensity of emotions and convert a conversation from the “War Region” to the “conversation regime”. This is not about laughing at the partner. This is about the ability to laugh together.

Lightness instead of aggression

There are situations where both are annoyed, tired, on the verge of quarrels. And suddenly - one ironic phrase, a slight smile, good sarcasm. First pause. And then - laughter. And the resentment is no longer so acute, the tone of the conversation is softened, it becomes possible to hear each other.

Humor at such moments works as a “voltage reset button”. He does not depreciate the feelings, but helps not to overwhelm them.

The boundaries are important

Of course, not every joke is appropriate. Sarcasm, mockery, ulcerativeness - all this may not discharge, but rather, add oil into the fire. Humor should be kind and non -focused against a person. Light, joint jokes work best, especially if they are understandable only to you - as an internal language of the couple.

Laughter - security signal

When the pair remains the ability to laugh even during stressful moments, this indicates a high level of trust. Laughter becomes a sign: “I am not an enemy. We are in the same team. " He shows that even in the dispute you still hold on to the connection, and not for the desire to win.

Humor will not solve everything - but can save a lot

Of course, there are conflicts that require a serious conversation. And sometimes a joke is a way to escape from real discussion. But if the balance is observed, humor is a great way to prevent trifles from destroying intimacy.

Sometimes the best answer to the sarcastic "have you forgotten again?" - Not a sharp “do you always remember everything?!”, And a smile and: “Well, now we have a tradition.” And instead of resentment - laughter. Instead of exacerbation - rapprochement.

In a relationship, humor is not just entertainment. This is a tool. And, perhaps, one of the most underestimated. 😊