1. Fear of losing what is expensive 💔

When feelings become especially strong, fear turns on. The more happiness, the greater the vulnerability. We begin to think: “What if he leaves?”, “And if it all ends soon?” Such fear makes us keep the distance, not to relax to the end, as if we were preparing in advance for possible pain. Paradox-so that it does not hurt later, we do not allow ourselves to be truly happy now.

2. The experience of the past that interferes 🕰️

If a person survived betrayal, treason or just a heavy gap - his inner voice begins to whisper: "Happiness is a trap." Even if the current relationship is harmonious, we involuntarily project old wounds on a new feeling. The defense is triggered: it is better to hold a hand on the pulse, not fall in love too much, do not rejoice too violently. What if the pain is again?

3. Distrust of yourself and another 🧠

Sometimes the root of fear is not in another person, but in himself. We doubt: “I definitely deserve it?”, “Can it really be so simple?” Society often inspires that love is struggle, difficulties, suffering. Therefore, when everything goes smoothly, a person can feel anxiety, as if a certain “norm” has been broken.

4. We are afraid of changes 🔄

Happiness in love is not only about euphoria. This is also a transformation. People come together, open, change habits, priorities. Even positive changes can scare: after all, they demand that we release the previous version of ourselves. And this is not always simple.

5. When everything is fine, it is unusual 🌧️☀️

Some of us have lived in emotional instability for so long that they get used to the drama. Permanent swing: quarrels, reconciliation, jealousy, tears. And suddenly a person appears with whom it is calm. Gently. Reliable. Without storms. It seems boring, although in fact - this is mature love. But the unusual always scares.

What to do with it? 🤍

Recognizing your fear is the first step. Do not fight him, not be ashamed, but to understand: he does not say that happiness is false. He talks about how it is important for us to save it. And this is normal. The main thing is not to allow fear to overshadow the very joy. Because love should not be anxiety. It can be quiet, stable and deep. If we allow ourselves to believe in it.