Why do we want to flirt?

Sometimes it's just a way to feel desired. In long relations, the brightness of perception is dulled over time: less compliments, less novelty. The flirting from the outside can be like a sip of fresh air - it gives the feeling that you are still interesting to others. This is not necessarily due to the dissatisfaction of the partner - rather, with the desire to confirm their “liveliness”.

Where is the border?

Here everything begins. Someone considers flirting likes under the photo on the social network. And someone is a correspondence with intimate subtext. It all depends on the agreements in pairs. If both in a relationship understand and accept that a light flirting is part of a character or communication - then it is a game with the rules. But if one considers this to be the norm, and the other - a betrayal, discord begins. It is important to talk about it out loud, and not hope for telepathy.

Flirt as a signal

Sometimes flirting is not just entertainment, but a symptom. The symptom that something is missing inside the relationship. Recognition, sincere interest, excitement. In such cases, an external game is an attempt to compensate for the internal deficit. And this could be a good reason for talking in pairs: "What are we missing?" - So far, the conversation is still possible, but trust is not destroyed.

Can you play - and not lose?

Sometimes yes. If flirting is light, innocent, without crossing borders, without hiding - it can even refresh. But it is important to understand: if there is a need to hide it, if the excitement "What if it finds out?" “So you have already crossed the line.” Because flirting is not what is done stealthily.

Flirt - as spices. In moderation - gives a taste. In excess - spoils the dish. In a relationship, it can be both a game and the beginning of the end. The main thing is honesty. First of all with yourself. Why am I doing this? What does it give me? And am I ready to pay the price that a game with fire can bring? Because sometimes even light flirting is not at all easy. Especially for the one who is standing nearby.