Love - like a flash

This is a phase of euphoria when hormones prevail. Dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin is raging in us. We see a partner in an ideal light, not noticing the shortcomings or not attaching to them. During this period, we are literally “under the high”. But falling in love in nature is unstable. It is not created for a long distance. She - to connect, light, launch.

Love is something else

True love begins where euphoria ends. When idealization disappears, and we see a real person with all its features. When we stay nearby not because of the butterflies in the abdomen, but because we know: this person is native. Love is not a flash, but a bonfire that needs to be supported. This is concern, acceptance, respect. It comes later, because it takes time and joint experience.

Proximity is built step by step

We cannot truly be close to a person who we know for two weeks. Proximity is not only bodily, but also the ability to share vulnerable, talk about complex, not to pretend. This is the trust that is formed from conversations in the kitchen at night, from the collaboration of difficulties, from how you both react to irritation, stress, disagreements. Real proximity is not a “spark”, but the result of labor.

Why is it difficult for us to wait?

We live in a world of instant result. I want everything to happen "here and now." But love takes time. Love is fast, love is slow. And this is her strength. Because only through the situations passed together you can understand who is actually next to you. And most importantly - who are you next to this person.

Farming is a wonderful beginning. But do not confuse her with love. Real proximity does not happen by click. She is born out of patience, sincerity and desire to recognize a person deeper. This is the whole charm. Because when you are truly close to someone, this is no longer a flash. This is the light that remains.