Let's imagine a situation where a woman cannot go to her man - be it for work, family, or circumstances. And then she invites him to her place. And then a natural question arises: who is responsible for the conditions of his arrival? Where will he live? Who will make sure that he eats well? Who pays for the ticket?

It seems, at first glance, that these are just everyday details. But for me, there is much more to it - a question of fairness and respect for each other.

I think that if a woman invites, if she says: "Come to me," then it is reasonable and fair for her to think about where he will live. Not because it is an obligation, but because it is a manifestation of care and respect. The belief that an invitation is not just words, but a promise to create comfort for a person, at least minimal.

Sometimes women expect a man to decide everything himself - where to stay, how to get there. But an invitation is an invitation to a home, to a space that a woman considers hers. And it would be beautiful if she were the one to make sure that the man felt like a welcome guest there, and not a stranger.

Of course, the issue of tickets is a separate story. I do not think that a woman should necessarily pay for a man's travel. But if she sincerely wants him to come and understands that this is a big expense for him, then why not think about how to help? After all, this is not only material, but also moral support.

For me personally, justice is not strict rules, but understanding and care. In the Catholic tradition, much is built on love and service to each other. Love is not only beautiful words, it is concrete actions, even little things. And if a person invites another to his place, it means that he is ready to be a support for him, at least for the duration of the meeting.

It seems to me that they are simply not used to such responsibility, or they are afraid that too much is expected of them.

But in fact, isn’t it fair that if you invite, you also take care? Not as a burden, but as a joy. And this does not mean that a man should not take part. Ideally, the care should be mutual. But it is the invitation that imposes a certain etiquette of kindness and hospitality.

I am not saying that you need to take everything upon yourself, forgetting about yourself. This is not about that. This is about balance. In a relationship, even at the very first stages, it is important to respect each other, even in such seemingly practical things. Sometimes we forget about this and pretend that it is enough to simply want to be together.

A woman who invites a man to her place shows great courage. This is not just “come over.” This is “I am opening the door to my world, my life.” And this world needs to be shown with care and warmth.

And, perhaps, there is some mystery of hospitality in this, which is spoken about in many religions, including Catholicism. Hospitality is service. It is a small act of love that can change a lot in a relationship.

I would like men and women on the Internet and in real life to think about this more often. So that there are no expectations and demands, but a mutual desire to create comfort for each other.

In the end, a meeting is not just a meeting of two people, it is a meeting of their souls, their readiness to be together, even if distances and circumstances do not yet play into our hands.

All this is not about duties, but about love and justice, which are the basis of any relationship. And how do you see it?

Lana Banana