Dear Eugenia,
Thank you so much for this blog of yours, You hit many high points I surely believe in. For one, I'm only 71 years of age and I think that by today's standards, I would fit in with the Group: Adult Males, maybe even succumb to the tired title of Mature Males. I have a lot of fun here talking with good friends, all of whom I love as such. Would I marry one of them? Certainly! Everyone I talk to is an excellent friend who really seems to care about me and I mean 'personally'. I care about them all as well. Many ask my advice, saying that no one their own age can give them trustworthy advice. I understand that well. The intimacy concepts you spoke of seem to be a concern as well and they have asked me, on occasion, to explain my own desires and methods of fulfillment.. They can readily see I am not 'out of order' in any facet of my being. In fact, I'm not sure I ever reached a 'sexual peak' in my life yet, and I hope sincerely I do not until I'm well past 100 years. I still lift weights and exercise and run where most men my age have quit at everything. They think in terms of 'supposed failures' at their ages. I laugh at that because I know for a fact, you're who you think you are, as long as you do not quit. Quitting damages you more than anything in this world. Giving up is what kills you!
Now for the interactions with ladies, I've been married twice and betrayed twice. I'm a little more careful about the selection process now))) and no wonder, I think. Now I look at proof in the qualities I seek, but these qualities are non gender in their origin. I choose friends the same way, so a lady becomes first, a friend then a possible spouse. I look for honesty and ethics first. To me a lie, any lie is the first form of betrayal. I've had so much of that I turn away. Extreme beauty is not important to me at all; it's just luck of genetics anyway. A pleasant woman is enough for me, she will show me more of her inside life and sooner than any bright beauty will. She has less fears and more normal, common sense than many ladies worrying about whether their eye liner is straight and their brows not too thick. In the 2 years I have been here, I have so grown to love Slavic women for their values more than any other culture in the world, and everyone of them is so beautiful to me! But for some of them, the exhibition of that beauty is so deep in their eyes. If you can make that woman smile, you'll see more real beauty than in a 20 year old beauty queen, because it is a tempered beauty, like tempered steel. You don't make a sword of iron, iron rusts and breaks. That woman may falter, but a Slavic woman always gets back up to speed and she will win, God Bless her!!! She will. These younger men, here for fun and games, don't understand women yet, so I beg you not to fault them too much. Remember, they have to learn somewhere, and wouldn't you rather see them learn right from wrong. A Slavic woman will teach them what an American or British woman doesn't care to, if either of them even know. A 67 year old man wrote about your blog. His choice of words and his spelling were pathetic and I don't think he had a good command of the English language himself. So, I worry for his education and beg you not to fault him overly much; he was speaking of himself in his ideas. He wasn't qualified to speak for most of us and I am so sorry for him because it sounds like he has nearly given up. He's having sexual problems, as he admitted and that alone will break some men.
Your words, thought and ideals are excellent and I applaud you. Your piece was well written, and informative as well, I think we all, (Men) want and need to hear more like this. Personally, I have never denied anyone communication with me because of age! Come on, how foolish would that be??! I believe there is an 18 year lady who would love to be with me for the rest of my life, and take care of me when ill health befalls me, just because of who she is and who she wants to be to me. I said '18 year old' but that '18' is simply a reference point that doesn't even matter. I mean, I remember when God made dirt, I think.... but the point is you cannot judge all women by any one of them, and by the Holy God, no blasphemy intended, He made them this way. All are simply gorgeous in their own right; look for it! If you can't see that, get your eyes fixed and look again! They are each and every one beautifully Unique, and I think I have solved the age old question of why they are so beautiful.... Mark my words now.... You just cannot put that much pure Love and Care into a woman and have her be anything but beautiful!!!
I also believe there is a woman of this caliber for each and every one of us seeking here. But there are rules you must follow..... always be truthful, and your care for them must be above reproach. You don't have to do a lot for them... they really appreciate the small stuff more often, than the big stuff rarely. And they appreciate Love given to them as much as they give it. If you invest hugs and kisses, morning and evening, along with tender words and professions of love, maybe a phone call a day to inquire how she's doing, or maybe a little help around the house, you'd better be clean at bedtime or you're going to miss the time of your life. Your little investments throughout the day, will multiply into something you've only ever dreamed of. Simply put... If a man works a little to make his Lady happy, he'll be so much more happy himself than he could ever imagine.
Treat her well, they are our treasures, protect them in every way, feelings first and you'll learn about the rest. I pray this helps someone, even if it's only one man or one woman. God Is Love, so I ask God bless you all in your searches.
Ray!