ANYONE, who has been hurt…. ANYONE, who has failed in a past relationship or even relationships (Albeit, through no fault of their own), will most certainly have a problem with “Trust” and even “Paranoia”. Especially, in the beginning, if the opportunity arises to have fresh beginnings and a relationship with someone new.
It is only natural, to question whether this is history repeating itself, all over again….. “Deja Vu”, if you will.

This would also be the part of you that is a “built in mechanism” that we, as human beings, have, to help assess the dangers of being hurt or betrayed once again. Time is a great healer, but yet, we must realise when we are both mentally and physically, in the “right place” in our lives, to be able to move forward and open ourselves up to the possibilities, once again. You will now, also have the wisdom of these lessons taught, taking a much more reserved and slower pace, in forming and accepting this new found love relationship.

If you were to ask me what my understanding of love and a relationship is for me, then I would have to say;

Love is tender… but can be a fickle instrument that should never be abused and must, at all times, stay pure! Trust is earned! Respect is shown..... given and received! Responsibility is shared! Commitment has no boundaries! Support should be without exceptions! Communication should open all the pathways that lead to shared discussions, decision making, understanding, compromise and the knowledge gained (wisdom) to the insights and who your partner truly is! Listen to what is being said or shown to you, but also “hear” what is being said or shown to you! Promises are actions and not just words! Reliability, Faithfulness and Truth should be in every moment, in every micro-second of a life-long relationship and never relinquished, under any circumstances, whatsoever, for another.

We all look for and we all have within us, the traits to allow us to live without the Mistrust and Paranoia that has, at least on one occasion in our lives, haunted our hearts and souls.

All I can add is….. Be ready, Believe, Be sure and don’t rush in your choice or decision, then fully enjoy life with all its wonders. I can then promise you, that you will be successful in finding your love, relationship and your new tomorrow.