Love is not always peace

Strong emotions, even positive, require us to large energy. Loveness, passion, affection activate internal resources, and if the relationship is intense, saturated, with bright experiences, this can be tired. The constant “holding of the focus” on the partner, attempts to guess his mood, not offend, support, understand - all this exhausts, especially if a person is inclined to hyperempathy.

The desire to be an "perfect partner"

Many are not tired of love, but from expectations - their own and strangers. We try to correspond: to be attentive, interesting, desirable, calm, wise. In a relationship where there is too much “necessary”, “must”, “impossible”, emotional burnout inevitably occurs. The partner is not a joy, but a task. This happens even in love - especially in the one where there is no space for weakness and sincerity.

The accumulation of unresolved conflicts

Even if the relationship is generally strong, small uncomfortable feelings, unreliability, resentment, anxiety - they accumulate. And if they do not pronounce them, do not live together, they begin to crush from the inside. It may seem to a person that he is simply “tired”, but in fact he carries the luggage of the unresolved. This leads to irritability, isolation and a sense of distance - even in the presence of love.

When one gives more

Fatigue often appears where there is an energy bias. If one invests more: emotionally, physically, morally - it is exhausted. Even if a partner loves, but does not know how to express it actively, carefully, with participation - the second person begins to feel devastated. Love without reciprocity - not even in feelings, but in action - becomes a source of internal tension.

What to do with it?

First of all, to admit. That fatigue is possible and does not mean that "everything is bad." Sometimes it's just a signal: it's time to pause, regain energy, afford your rest. It is important to talk about this to the partner honestly, without reproaches. Rethink the rhythm of communication, distribution of roles, expectations. And to allow love to be not only recoil, but also a source of recovery.

Yes, even strong feelings can bore. Because love is not only emotion, but also work. And each of us has periods of fatigue. The main thing is not to perceive it as a disaster, but as a natural part of a deep connection. After all, love is not a constant rise, but the path. And it is important to go together together, not forgetting to protect not only each other, but also themselves.