Not always love is a flash

It is familiar to us that real feelings begin suddenly. "I saw - and disappeared." But in reality, such a flash often turns out to be in love - bright, but short -term. She feeds on expectations, hormones, fantasies. And love, the one that remains is not always loud. Sometimes it looks like a melody that you first do not notice, and then you can’t throw it out of your head.

Without illusions - but with trust

When feelings do not come right away, they are often cleaner. They have less projection, fewer attempts to “think up” another. We see a person as he is, and only then we begin to feel warm. This is a special force: this is an affection born of trust, care, real contact. And not from a stormy imagination.

Why do you need to give yourself time?

We live in the era of quick solutions: I liked it - we didn’t like it, it works - it doesn’t work. But feelings are not food delivery. Sometimes, in order to understand your affection, you need to live with a person everyday life. Take a walk in silence, quarrel, stay nearby when there is no reason. And then the heart begins to open - not on command, but by internal agreement.

Love that comes slowly is for a long time

Because it is built not on chemistry, but on an understanding. Because you fall in love not into the image, but into a person. Because you know what you love for - and you feel that it is mutually. Such love does not burn, but warm. It does not require evidence, because it has inner calm.

Not all feelings should be instant. Not all love must begin with thunder and lightning. Sometimes it grows like a tree - slowly but tight. And those who are ready to wait, receive not just a “effect”, but a whole world. A world in which there is a warmth, and trust, and real proximity.