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Why relationships need pauses and silence
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Silence is not always emptiness

Sometimes we just need to take your breath. Stay nearby, without saying. Or vice versa - to leave to return with another mood. In moments of strong emotions (anger, resentment, anxiety), silence may not be injured. In order not to say excess, do not pour the flow of what you will regret about. This is not cold, but protection. And if both partners understand this, silence ceases to scare.

Pauses are needed to hear yourself

In a relationship, it is easy to lose contact with your own feelings. We can react automatically, forgetting to ask ourselves: “What do I really feel? What do I want? " A pause is a chance to stop and hear an inner voice. Understand what exactly causes irritation or pain. And only then - to return to the dialogue, already without accusations and hysteria.

Rest from dialogue - not from love

The proximity does not have to be continuous. Even the most loving people need space. To get bored. To live a day alone. To do yourself, and not just "us." And this is not a betrayal, but respect - to the borders, to everyone's inner world. It is useful to not only speak to relationships, but also to be able to calmly shut up - not in offense, but in trust.

It is important - how to be silent and why

If silence becomes a way of punishment, manipulation or avoiding conflict - this destroys. But if it is conscious, spoke, understandable - it treats. It’s good when in pairs you can say: “I need a little silence, I will think and return.” Or just hug in silence when there are no longer enough words, but there are feelings.

Silence and pauses are not enemies of the relationship. This is a breath between words. This is a pause on which the music of intimacy is built. It is important not to be afraid of silence if love is behind it. Because a truly strong connection is heard even without words. And it does not require constant noise to stay alive.

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