Why does this happen? Why in our modern world, where everything seems to be about equality and partnership, does the man still have to be the one who has to be the "core", "breadwinner", "protector" - and at the same time emotionally support, solve problems and be responsible for the mood? And the woman - calmly watch and wait for him to cope?

This is not about the fact that men cannot take responsibility. On the contrary, responsibility is a very noble thing. But when it becomes an unbearable burden, it is no longer nobility, but a burden. And the man simply begins to get tired, even if he tries with all his might.

I know what I'm talking about - just observing around me and thinking about my experience. How many times have I met guys who are literally trying with all their might to be perfect for their woman, for their family, for their friends. But at the same time no one says to them: "Hey, let's share this responsibility together." Often it sounds the other way around: “You are a man, you must.”

But I believe that a man and a woman are a team. And everyone should do their share. This is true harmony, when responsibility is equally distributed, and no one is overloaded.

A woman should not calmly watch a man take on too much. Because it is not only unfair, but also simply inhuman. Living with the feeling that “everything is on me” means losing the joy of relationships and starting to look at them as hard work. And this is not about love, not about reciprocity.

What to do? Responsibility is not just doing something for someone else. It is about the willingness to solve difficulties together, support each other and respect personal boundaries. If a man has taken on, say, the financial side, that’s great. But a woman can take on emotional support, household chores or anything else that is important and necessary. The main thing is that both feel “We are together, and we share responsibility.”

When a woman understands that she is not just “waiting” but actively participating, she not only helps her man, but also strengthens the connection between them. It is like a prayer for two – when everyone brings their contribution and together they create something greater than the sum of their parts.

Service means helping and supporting, but not becoming dependent on other people’s expectations. True love is freedom and mutual respect. And responsibility should be a free choice, not coercion.

If a man takes on too much, a woman can gently but firmly say, “Let’s do this together. I want to not just be there, but walk hand in hand with you.” This is not a sign of weakness or indifference, but on the contrary – wisdom and strength.

And I sincerely believe that such an approach changes not only relationships between people, but also our culture as a whole. After all, when responsibility is equal, when partners support each other – both men and women feel happier and freer.

In the end, life is not a competition, but a shared path. And the sooner we understand this, the easier it will be for all of us. Isn't it?

Thank you for reading. I hope you found it interesting and a little relatable.

Lana Banana