Men, we see it all. Your fingers fiddling with the edge of a napkin. How you check your phone 📱 a hundred times, even though it hasn't even vibrated. How you suddenly remember that you need to adjust your watch, sleeve, button, even though everything is in place. And you know what? This is not a minus. It's touching 😊
But! To avoid turning yourself into a nervous lump 🧶, which will make you feel awkward later, here are a few ideas of what you can do with your hands on a first date so as not to look like you're taking an exam:
1. Hold a cup. Coffee, tea, even a glass of water - anything will do ☕. This is a simple and delicate action that helps keep your hands busy and calm you down a little. Plus, it looks natural.
2. Play with something "neutral". Not with keys, not with a phone (please!), but, say, with a wooden cocktail stick 🍸. It doesn't bother you, doesn't irritate you, and you feel like you're not "naked".
3. Use a table. Put your palms on the table, join your fingers in a "house", put one hand on top of the other. Just find a stable position in which you don't feel like you're "hanging in the air" 🪑.
4. Listen. When a man listens attentively, you can immediately see it in his eyes, his body, and his hands 👀. They relax. And yes, we fucking love it.
5. And if you're brave, take a step. If a woman laughs 😂, smiles, looks into your eyes, leans slightly towards you, you can touch her hand for a couple of seconds ✋. Carefully, respectfully. And if the reaction is warm, your hands will be busy with the most pleasant thing in the world: live contact 💑.
So if suddenly on your next date you catch yourself drumming your fingers on the table, just smile. All women have already noticed this 😉. And many of us even like it. The main thing is to be real. With or without hands.
Natasha❤️