I do not want to invent a sad story or dramatize, but I want to share the fact that, in my opinion, I can help survive such periods and, possibly, find the way back to the heat.

1. Do not be silent about silence
It seems to be a paradox, but when an emotional distance reigns between two people, it often becomes the first impulse ... even more silent. We begin to think for another, build guesses, be offended by the fact that it is not spoke. The simplest and most difficult at the same time is to say bluntly: “I feel that we have come down. I do not have enough heat between us. ” Do not blame. Just share.

2. Check: Is this resentment or fatigue?
Sometimes cold is not indifference, but accumulated resentment. Or emotional exhaustion. People are removed not because they do not like, but because they do not know how to be. If the relationship is dear to you, try to understand: what exactly led to this pause? Perhaps the matter is a repeating misunderstanding. Or that everyone simply pulled everyday life on himself for too long and forgot how to rejoice at each other.

3. Return simple gestures
When we freeze emotionally, everything seems difficult. But the return of heat begins with a small one. The usual "How did you sleep?" in the morning. Message for no reason. A light touch. One evening without phones. No need to wait for the "special moment." He will not come. It can be created - from a simple one.

4. Give time and space
Sometimes, to get closer, you need to retreat a little. Do not crush, do not stretch emotions, do not arrange interrogations. People live differently in the inner winter. And if your partner is silent or moved away now, this does not always mean the end. Sometimes he just needs space to cool from you, but from his anxieties.

5. ask yourself an honest question
And finally, it is important to ask myself: and I myself/I give heat myself? Or just waiting for him? Maybe I also became more restrained, careful, tired? Sometimes we both stand, each on their side, expecting the first to step. And you just need to take a step towards. One. Without a guarantee, but with faith.

Emotional cold does not always mean the end. But he always requires attention. He is like a protracted sky: the sun is not visible, but this does not mean that it is no longer there. Heat returns - step by step, in a word, in a word, a gaze after a look. The main thing is to want to warm, and not just freeze.