The pace of love is not a standard, but a personal feature
Each of us lives in our own way emotions. Someone - openly, swiftly, with sparks in the eyes. Someone - with caution, step by step, checking the soil. And the one who moves slower is not necessarily colder or less interested. He just needs more time to feel safety. In order not to lose yourself in emotions. To be sure that this is not fleeting.

Fears on both sides

A quickly approaching partner can be afraid to miss “his” person, losing patience and internally demanding: “You must feel the same - right now.” And the one who slows down has his own fear: to be flooded, absorbed in other people's feelings, to lose control. As a result, both are worried, only in different ways: one from a lack of proximity, the other from its overabundance.

Past experience plays a role

Our "love speeds" are often formed in the past. The one who was once abandoned suddenly may cling and rush to "have time to hold." And the one who has experienced overwhelming relationships may be afraid that too fast proximity will lead to a loss of freedom. These fears can be unconscious, but they powerfully affect behavior.

How not to spoil everything because of the difference in rhythm

The first is not to crush. The more they put pressure on a person, the stronger he wants to run away. The second is to say my feelings: “I want to be closer, but I understand that you need time. I am ready to wait if I know that you also want to move forward. ” Third - negotiate. Instead of insults and silent expectations - honest conversations. This is not romantic, but saves a relationship.

A different pace is not a sentence. This is an occasion to learn to hear each other. If both really want to be together, rapprochement will occur. Maybe, not in an ideal rhythm, not according to the cinema scenario, but at his own, living and real pace. The main thing is not to pull and do not push. And go nearby. Even a little differently.