Sensitivity is not weakness, but depth

To be sensitive means to feel the nuances acutely: the mood of the partner, the slightest changes in the voice, intonation, gestures. This is the ability to empathize, be thin, attentive, deeply involved. And this quality is not a “drawback” at all. But if sensitivity does not meet care, it becomes vulnerability. We begin to hide it, be shy, mask under “I don’t care” - just so as not to hear reproaches and not feel “wrong”.

Why is this happening?

There may be several reasons. Someone in childhood heard: "Do not revise", "Do not be a rag." Someone in past relations faced the coldness and closed partner. Someone tried to be “convenient” and not cause trouble with their emotions. All this lays the program: "To be loved, you need to be restrained." And every time feelings break through, fear appears: “What if it is too much? What if they condemn me again? "

How does it affect relationships

Holding over emotions, we seem to protect ourselves ... but at the same time we lose intimacy. After all, true love is built on sincerity. But what about it is sincere, if everything you feel is under the castle? If you cannot admit your vulnerability, what is important to you, scary, painful, joyful? A hiding sensitivity turns into irritation, isolation, silence - and wounds us and a partner.

How to accept your sensitivity

Firstly, stop comparing yourself with those who are “calmer”. Everyone has their own way. Secondly, find a partner (or create a dialogue with him), in which your emotions will not be ridiculed, but heard. And thirdly-to stop making excuses for the fact that you are a living person. Because sensitivity is not weakness, but the path to real proximity.

Being sensitive does not mean to be unstable. This means to be in contact with yourself and with another. And if the love is real, she will not ask you to "feel less." She will say: “I am nearby. You can be any. ”