The myth of "two halves"

Since childhood, they tell us that true love is when two people become one. Romantic, of course. But in reality, this merger can result in the loss of individuality. One begins to dissolve in the other: to adapt, to abandon his hobbies, to change habits - just to be “on one wave”. After time, this can cause irritation, fatigue and even inner void.

Personal space is not a betrayal

One wants to go to the cinema, the other - to lie down with a book. One loves parties, the other - silence. This is fine. In a healthy relationship, no one is obliged to love the same as a partner. Everyone can (and should) have their own “angle” - their own hobby, time for themselves, individual friends. Personal space does not destroy relationships - it takes a person. So, a couple as a whole.

Of course, there are things that you want to divide: travels, favorite series, walks, heart -to -heart conversations. Joint moments create proximity, strengthen the emotional connection. But it is important that this is not out of a sense of duty, but from a sincere desire. Otherwise, even the most romantic gestures can turn into routine or an occasion for irritation.

Sometimes partners are afraid of differences: "We are so different, maybe it does not work?" But the difference does not interfere with love - if there is respect in the relationship. When one goes to yoga, and the other is to repair a motorcycle, this is not a separation, but then the opportunity to meet at dinner and tell each other something new. The main thing is not to force yourself to coincide in everything. This is not love, but a merger, where someone will certainly lose himself.

The idea “always together” is beautiful in theory, but in life it is more important to be near, preserving itself. To love does not mean dissolving. This means interested, support, be included - but it is not necessary to share absolutely everything. Sometimes truly close people go nearby, but with their steps. And this does not make them less in love. On the contrary, it gives a relationship to air in which feelings can breathe.