They are used to being a "support", a "wall", a "breadwinner" - this is what they were taught, this is what they chose, this is what society imposed on them. But I increasingly notice how much pain is hidden behind this desire to be needed only through function. Through action. Through giving.

Not just when he gives something - attention, gifts, support - but when he is appreciated simply for being there. After all, it often seems that for many it is important to feel their significance precisely through action, through what they bring to the relationship, what they do for their partner. But is this true?

I think it is important for a man to know that he is needed not only when he gives something, but also simply because he is there. Of course. As if beyond all the affairs and concerns that he takes on, there is a space where he is accepted and loved simply like that. It is difficult to explain in words, but I feel it.

I often hear stories and see in life how men try - financially, emotionally, physically - for the sake of their women. And it is wonderful when a person wants to be a support and support. But why then so often does it feel like he is valued only as a source of resources? As if love is tied to his ability to "give", to solve problems, to be strong.

I ask myself the question: what if a man gets tired of "giving"? What if inside there is a desire to just be there, without the obligation to prove his need through actions? After all, we are all people, and everyone has moments of weakness, fatigue, a desire to just be heard and understood.

Perhaps I just dream of such a connection. When a man and a woman are together not because "he gives", but because they complement each other, support without conditions and expectations. Where "need" is not an obligation or a role, but a natural feeling of reciprocity.

I sometimes think that in our society there is a very strong idea that a man should be a "pillar", a "breadwinner", a "fixer". And as long as he does this, he is needed. But as soon as he stops, he immediately loses his value. This is very scary, because no one is eternal and cannot always be in shape. We all want to be accepted not only for what we can give, but also for who we are inside.

In such moments of loneliness, I catch myself thinking that it is important for me to see a man who is not afraid to be weak, who is not afraid to just "be" there. Who is not afraid that without "giving" he will become unnecessary. It is so humane to be needed just like that, without conditions and calculation.

And I also want a man to feel important, even when he is silent. When he is tired, when he does nothing except simply being. Because it is in such moments that true closeness is visible - not when something is done, but when you can simply be close and accept each other as we are.

Maybe this is true love - when a man knows that he is needed not only when he gives. When he is accepted completely, with all his strengths and weaknesses. And this gives strength to continue to be close, to be real.

I believe that such relationships are possible. That men and women can be close not because someone owes something, but because they choose to be together, no matter what. And in this choice there is no place for judgments and conditions - only a pure feeling of acceptance and need.

That's what I think. Sometimes it's sad, sometimes it gives hope. And, perhaps, this is the point - to learn to accept and be accepted. To be needed not only when we give, but simply when we are.

Ira