When the world is silent, we want to talk

In the afternoon we are torn by responsibilities, deeds, phones, plans. Conversations are often brief, superficial, business. We do not really hear each other-too much noise. And at night everything freezes. The phone is postponed, the gaze is not distracted, the body is relaxed. And there is silence in which, finally, one can hear not only the other, but also yourself.

Removing defense

In the dark, it is easier to be vulnerable. We seem to be hiding under the blanket from all assessments, expectations and roles. No need to look “collected” or “smart”. You can just be real. Soft, vulnerable, doubt. And this gives a space for frankness: “I am scared”, “I don’t know what will happen next”, “You are important for me” - such phrases are much easier to pronounce in the gloom than in the bright light of the kitchen.

Physical proximity creates emotional

If the partners lie nearby, hugging, just touching each other - this creates a special sense of security. The body signals: "You are safe." And the brain relaxes. Feelings are revealed that can be hidden during the day. Even just a warm hand nearby makes recognition less frightening. We feel that they will accept us, even if we say something unusual or vulnerable.

The night exacerbates feelings

There is special magic in silence and darkness. Everything seems a little deeper, sharper. Questions that ignored in the afternoon pop up in my head. We notice subtle nuances in intonation, in words, in breathing. And this makes the conversation not just the exchange of phrases, but a real experience. The fact that it brings closer.

Conversations before going to bed are not just a ritual. This is the territory of trust. Where you can be imperfect. Where can I say that I would not dare to be in the afternoon. Where the words sound softer, but they mean more. And, perhaps, it is in these night dialogs that the real proximity that cannot be played is born - only to live.