Desires do not disappear if you don't talk about them 🕯
We often think: "If I say nothing, it will resolve." But desires are not dust. They can not simply be erased. They live inside, accumulate and eventually turn into irritation, resentment, cold. Especially if the second person does not even suspect that something is wrong. He sincerely believes that he does everything right, and you feel more and more that they will not hear you. Although ... you don’t say it.

Fear of seeming "too sensitive" 😶
We are afraid that they will understand us incorrectly. What they say: “You demand too much”, “these are nonsense”, “Do not start.” Therefore, restrained. Especially if earlier for frankness we have already been burned. But when the desires are not voiced, the partner cannot respond to them. He is simply not in the know. And this is precisely in this - a great injustice to himself and to him.

The gap is formed 🌫
When one is silent about his needs, he gradually moves away. And the other, without suspecting anything, lives in the illusion that everything is fine. This creates the illusion of intimacy. Outside - a couple. Inside is the void. But intimacy is just about that you can say: “I miss something,” without afraid to lose love. Because it is in the dialogue that it is strengthened.

Can you learn to speak? 🗣
Yes, but it is worth starting small. Not with complaints, but with sincerity: “It is important for me to share with you”, “I am a little worried, but I want to be honest,” “You are dear to me, and therefore I say.” Recognize your right to desire. Even if it does not coincide with the expectations of a partner, it deserves to be heard. Because it is part of you.

Silence is not always - gold. Especially in a relationship. Unexpressed desires are not “trifles”, but the foundation on which trust is built. Proximity is not when everything is perfect, but when you can be yourself. With vulnerability, with expectations, with desires. And if you want to keep love, start talking. Not when everything falls apart, but while you can still be nearby.