And yes, also so that he doesn’t snore, pets the cat and brings coffee to bed ☕️

Sounds beautiful. Just not real.

The more I look at other people’s couples, the more I understand that there are no perfect ones. And if there are, then they are either fake or dying of boredom. And I don’t want that. Really, I don’t want that. I’m not looking for a man who will correspond to something. I want someone with whom there will be this WARM SOMETHING. Even if he’s weird. Even if he doesn’t always understand the hints. Even if he has his own quirks, habits, hang-ups.

I want a person to be not perfect, but REAL. So that he could forget to buy bread, but then hug me, as if I were his home. So that he could argue with me, but not run away. So that he would not hide his emotions, not play Superman, not pretend to be someone else.

I do not need him to always know what to say. Sometimes just sitting next to me and being silent is enough. Just knowing that he is here. That he is YOURS.

I do not want it smooth. I want it lively. I want a person to be tired, rude, harsh, but CLOSE. Not to go into the fog, not to disappear, not to pretend. Even if our habits or temperament do not match. The main thing is to match in feelings. So that there is contact, honest and without filters. So that he can say, “I am having a hard time right now” - and not be afraid that I will leave. And I could say "I'm tired" - and not think that he would immediately cool off.

Connection is not when everything is perfect. Connection is when you are not afraid to be yourself. Even if you have a strange laugh, you are sometimes jealous for no reason, cry because of a movie and turn on stupid TV series at night. When all this does not bother you, but on the contrary - touches you. Because you are alive.

I do not want to be someone's princess. I want to be myself next to someone who will enjoy it. I want my absurdities not to irritate, but to make you smile. So that my habit of falling asleep on someone else's shoulder is not "another feature", but something that is expected.

And you know what I realized? I do not need a man who takes everyone's breath away. I need one who warms ME. Even if he does not meet anyone's expectations. Even if he is sometimes stupid, forgetful, argues and does not know how to do it right. The main thing is that he is mine. And that I can also be mine for him.

Is it important for you to be “right” next to someone? Or can you just be yourself? 🤍

Irisha