Why is that? What is the secret of those who find? Or is it just luck? Or is it that sometimes being good does not mean being needed? And what does it mean to be needed by someone? Probably, it is when you are accepted with all your imperfections, when you are simply calm and warm, without unnecessary words and tension.

It seems to me that this is the most difficult thing - to find such a person with whom you do not have to pretend, hide your fears and shortcomings. Just be yourself, and at the same time feel that you are truly expected and appreciated.

But here's the paradox - for some reason those who work hard on themselves often end up alone. Maybe it's not that we don't know how to do something or don't know something, but simply that we don't always want to lower the bar? Or don't want to make compromises that blur us?

Sometimes it seems that loneliness is not so much a punishment as a state when you are still in the process of searching, when you yourself have not yet fully understood what you want. Or when there is simply too much noise around and too little real.

And yes, sometimes it is scary to think that you can live like this your whole life - as a good person, but still never meet someone who will truly become yours. It seems like it is enough to just be yourself, but for some reason this is not enough.

Or maybe it is generally normal - not to have "your" person next to you, if you have yourself and your world? Maybe loneliness is not emptiness, but an opportunity to be alone with yourself, to figure yourself out, to love yourself first of all.

And yet sometimes I want to believe that somewhere out there there is someone who thinks the same way, who understands this fine line between being alone and being truly alone.

What do you think, is it possible to search all your life and not lose yourself? And what does it mean for you to find “your” person?

It seems to me that each of us has asked ourselves these questions at least once, but not everyone dares to talk about them out loud. But it is so important not to hide your doubts and fears, but to share them in order to understand that you are not the only one.

That's how I live - sometimes in hope, sometimes in doubt, but always with an open heart and a willingness to believe that everything is still ahead.

Irinka