When we feel necessary, we feel our irreplaceability. This is not about the dependence or requirement of constant attention-this is about the internal significance in someone’s life. It is like a thin connecting thread: "Without you - not so." You are not just an object of someone’s feelings, you are part of someone’s coordinate system, habits, plans. Not because you are kept or tied, but because you are given an internal place that no one else has.

Sometimes a person can say “I love you”, but behave as if it didn’t care whether you are nearby or not. This creates a painful dissonance: on the one hand, the recognition of feelings, on the other, is the lack of participation, needs, interest. There is a feeling that you are loved “by default”, “out of habit”, but do not choose actively, again and again.

The feeling of need is connected not only with the romantic sphere - it is rooted in children's experience. It is important for a child not just to know that his mother loves him, but to understand: she is waiting for him, she considers him important, she misses him. And if at an early age this feeling was not formed, an adult begins not to crave love in its purest form, but to confirm their significance - in actions, words, and inclusion.

Of course, you should not turn relations in the field of constant evidence "that you cannot live without me." It's not about addiction, but about mutual inclusion. About the feeling that you are not just a decoration of the life of a partner, but part of it. That you are not only loved, but also chosen every day - as necessary, important, unique.

In a healthy relationship, a person feels that his contribution is important. That its presence has weight. That he is not just an object of admiration, but a partner, support, inspiration. Because real proximity is not only about feelings, but also about action. Not only about love, but also about the need. Not only about emotions, but also about the meaning.

Sometimes it’s worth not just saying “I love you”, but to say: “I need you. You make my life different. With you is not just good, with you-it is real. ”