When relations become a source of fatigue, it is important to ask yourself a few honest questions. Are you tiring temporary difficulties - for example, a crisis, moving, fatigue - or is a person nearby? Are you annoying the circumstances or how the partner reacts to them? Are you tired of external pressure or from the inner feeling that you do not live your life?

It happens that relationships turn into a constant emotional race: either you prove your value, then try to earn attention, then put up, then quarrel again. Fatigue in such stories is not episodic, but background. And she signals: you are too often crossed through yourself.

Fight for a relationship is normal. But fighting the feeling that you feel bad is already an alarming sign. Because love should not be the battlefield. In intimacy, it is important not only how much you are ready to invest, but also what you get in response. If you constantly give, but do not fill up, this is the path to emotional burnout.

Some remain in tiring relationships out of fear. Fear to be alone. Fear that it will not be better. Fear to admit that everything is in vain. But fear is a bad adviser. He holds us where we have long lost ourselves.

An indicator of healthy relationships can be a very simple question: do you often exhale with relief or suffocate from tension? With your loved one, you should want to live, and not constantly be saved.

This does not mean that you need to immediately surrender in the first difficulty. Love requires effort. But these efforts should be mutual. If you always pull out relationships on your shoulders, and the partner only watches - this is not a struggle for a couple. This is the struggle for the illusion.

Sometimes release is a more mature choice than to stay with the last forces. Because real proximity does not make a person less, weaker, tired. She makes him stronger, freer, happier. And if you don’t feel it for a long time, perhaps it's time not to fight, but to choose yourself.