I sometimes imagine how great it would be if the man next to me could just say: "You know, today I am upset" or "I am scared and I don't know what to do." But for some reason, more often than not, I see something completely different - closedness, silence, as if they are hiding behind some invisible wall. 🤐

I am not saying that this is bad or wrong. It is just... hard to understand. Because when a person is silent, it seems that he has nothing inside. But to be honest - I believe that everyone has this inner world, full of emotions, experiences and even fears. It's just that for some reason, men are accustomed to showing only the tip of the iceberg. ❄️

It probably has to do with how we were all raised. Like, a man should be strong, resilient, not cry, not complain, not show weakness. Where are the real emotions then? Where is the opportunity to be vulnerable without the fear of being judged or considered "less"? 😞

I think that sometimes this is exactly why relationships fall apart. When one speaks and the other is silent. When a woman wants to understand, and a man just jokes or changes the subject. Maybe they themselves are scared? Maybe they are uncomfortable? Or do they think that if they open up now, someone will hurt them? 😔

And I wonder - isn't true strength in being honest with yourself and with others? In order not to hide behind masks and not play roles? In order to speak directly - "yes, I'm tired", "yes, I feel bad", "yes, I'm afraid of losing you". Isn't this an act of courage? 💪

And you know, it doesn't make them any less, on the contrary, it makes them closer and more human. I believe that a man who can show his feelings is the one who is truly strong, and not the one who is silent to seem so. 👏

Sometimes it seems to me that we are all so afraid of real intimacy, real conversations, that we choose silence or empty words instead. But this only makes it colder. I want to believe that someday men will stop being afraid to be real. That there will be no shame in showing what's inside. That it will be possible to speak without fear and not hide your feelings under a thick layer of masculinity. 🕊

I wish I could see how this would change the world. How it would change relationships. How it would change us all. Because real intimacy is built not on silence, but on honesty. And I'm waiting for it. Really waiting. 💖

What do you think? Why is it so hard to open up? Or maybe it only seems that way, and in reality men just choose a different way to express themselves? I am very interested to know your opinion. Write if you want. I will wait. ✍️

Mari