Why do we need security in our own home 🧘‍♀️
When we hear the word "security", our imagination immediately draws something external: a code on the intercom, a strong lock, an alarm, closed windows. But there is another kind of security - the one that cannot be measured or captured in a photo. It is felt by the body. Or, on the contrary, its absence is felt as a heaviness in the chest, insomnia, anxiety, unwillingness to return home 😞

A house is not just walls, a roof and furniture. A house is a space that can hold. Or not hold. It is a place where you can be yourself or, on the contrary, you have to play roles, strain, please, be silent, be comfortable. True home security is not about external protection. It is about the feeling: “I can.” You can relax, you can take your time, you can be in a bad mood without explaining the reasons. You can do nothing at all. Just be 🍵

With this security, it all starts in childhood. It is in childhood that we first encounter the feeling of “I can” or, on the contrary, the thought that at home you need to be quiet, useful, fast, unnoticeable. If parents created an atmosphere of acceptance, if you could cry, scream, rejoice, be real - the house is built into the body as an internal warm container. Even as an adult, a person carries this feeling with them: “I’m at home. I’m okay. I have somewhere to go back to.” 🧡

But if the cold at home was not from the temperature, but from the intonations, if loved ones hurt, shamed, controlled, rejected, then a sense of security may not form at all. The home becomes a place of survival. And sometimes just another arena of war ⚔️

When there is no internal experience of security, an adult can live in a beautiful apartment with a cozy interior - and still not feel peace. It happens that he is afraid to be home alone, cannot fall asleep in silence, turns on the TV in the background to drown out the anxiety. Sometimes this manifests itself in the inability to just relax: as soon as you lie down on the couch, the inner critic turns on - like, you are idle, you are not doing anything. Simply being in your home becomes unbearable 💔

We live in an era when there is a lot of talk about self-development, efficiency, productivity. But home is not about this. Home is about softness. About boundaries. About peace. About where you can be “nobody” and not be ashamed of it. When a person loses such support, he literally loses the ground under his feet. He has nowhere to recover. He is constantly in “fight or flight” mode 🧠💣

Home safety is not an abstract category, but a real, physical, vital feeling. It is about the opportunity to be, not to do. About the silence in which you can rest, and not anxiously listen - will something bad start. It is difficult to live without it, even more difficult - to develop, build relationships, accept yourself 🙏

Therefore, a conversation about home safety is always a conversation about a deep human need. About roots. About the right to be. And, if this was not there before - about the opportunity to create it anew 🌿