I used to be like that. Athletic, beautiful, active - and at the same time I built myself up as an icy fortress. I didn't want to seem too accessible, I didn't want anyone to think that I was easy to get. And as a result - loneliness and bewilderment, why no one shows interest. 🙃

But if you don't give people a chance, how can they even understand that you want attention? It's like if you sat on a bench in the park and showed that you weren't interested in looking at anyone the whole way, didn't smile, didn't make any signs, and then were surprised why no one came up to you. Is that logical?

I think it's an internal conflict - on the one hand, you want to be strong and independent, on the other - you want someone to notice, to show interest. But if you constantly play "I won't let you", "don't pay attention", "I'm on my own", then how can you get what you want? 🤷‍♀️

Now, however, I look at myself and understand - it's easier to be a little more open. Smile a little more, make it clear a little more that you really want communication and attention. And this doesn't mean becoming easy or accessible, no. Just allow yourself to be real, and not a cold statue. And you know, it changes everything. The world around you begins to change. People begin to notice you and react differently. 😊

And honestly, I began to notice that you shouldn't be afraid to express yourself. Sometimes you just need to stop waiting for someone to make the first move and be a little bolder yourself. It's not easy, especially when you're used to hiding your desires. But sometimes it's worth taking a risk.

And what do you think, do men even understand when a woman plays cold? Or is it just a signal for them - don't bother? And how can you tell the difference between real independence and such a game?

These are my thoughts today. I wanted to share 😊

Mari