Over the years, I have understood a simple thing: a relationship is not only about "I love" and "I miss you". It is about how you spend your ordinary days. What you talk about over coffee, how you are silent on the road, what you watch together in the evening when you are tired after work.

And this is where common interests begin to sound.

I am not saying that we have to be completely the same. That is boring. But when there is something that unites us, it is like another strong knot between two hearts. And for me, this is important.

Common interests are a space where we do not "adapt", but "share". This is when we are both delighted with travel, a book, a movie or even a game of chess. This creates an emotional connection that is not connected with everyday life or obligations.

It is a defense against routine. When everything goes as it should, but you have "yours" - what you do together with pleasure - it's like a reminder: we are not just a couple, we are friends, partners, like-minded people.

A common hobby is a way to get to know each other more deeply. For example, I love nature and silence. And when he goes to the mountains with me not out of obligation, but because he wants to - I feel not just support, I feel like I'm next to a close soul.

Such moments bring us closer together better than gifts. I still remember the evening when we cooked something new together in the kitchen, laughed, everything burned - but that evening was perfect. Because it was "ours".

This is an indicator of how you look at life. If your values and hobbies overlap even a little - it will be easier for you to go in the same direction. You won't have to "re-educate" each other.

I'm not looking for a copy of myself. But it's important to me that the person next to me also has a light in their eyes when we do something "ours" together. Because passion fades, everyday life comes, but these little things, shared interests, a common rhythm - remain. And it is from them that the deep tenderness that I value the most grows.