Sometimes it seems that relationships are about feelings, chemistry, the same "butterflies". But with experience I realized: the most important thing is the decision. Make them every day, calmly, consciously, and not only in moments when it's easy and good.

Loving is not always easy. And being in a couple is too. But we choose: to stay, to talk, to listen, to give in, to support, not to break the silence when you want to run away.

I didn't understand this right away. Because I wanted everything to "work out by itself", without effort. But love is also work. Quiet, deep and at the same time very personal.

We decide for ourselves whether this story will continue. And emotions do not always decide everything. Often it is the mind that says: "Stay. Fight. Listen." Or vice versa - "You have already given everything, it's time to let go".

It is important that the decisions are mutual. If only one person decides, and the other just goes with the flow, it's no longer a partnership. In a healthy relationship, two people don't play for the same goal.

Not every decision will be convenient. But it must be honest. Not out of regret, not out of fear, not out of illusions. Only then is it a step forward, not a frozen "neither here nor there."

There are things that are not solved by themselves. And if we don't speak up in time, don't clarify, don't take a position, then decisions are made without us. Sometimes because of distance, silence, disappointment.

I'm learning to choose not "easier", but "right". For myself. For us. And if I stay in a relationship, it's not because I have no choice. But because every day I choose this person.

Love is not a fairy tale where everything is already written. It's a book that we write together. And each of our decisions is a new page. And only we can decide whether this story will be real, deep, and alive.