The idea of "halves" originally forms a flawed idea of oneself. As if you are unfinished, incomplete, incomplete. As if before meeting with “this, you cannot be happy, full or holistic. And as soon as you believe in it, you begin to look for not a partner - but a rescuer, a magician who will fix your soul, will collect you in pieces and give answers to all internal questions.

But the other person is not your therapy. And it is not obliged to become a continuation of your missing parts. Real mature proximity does not begin with a lack, but from fullness. When two holistic people are found not in order to survive at the expense of each other, but to go nearby.

The myth of halves inspires us that there must be “one for two” in the relationship: dreams, goals, tastes, interests. And when reality suddenly turns out to be different - you love the silence, and he is noisy companies, you want a house by the sea, and he dreams of living in the mountains - anxiety begins: "Or maybe he is not my half?"

Proximity is not a coincidence in all parameters. This is respect for differences. This is the ability to be near without dissolving. Without replacing his personality with "we." Without losing boundaries. Without abandoning yourself in order to correspond to someone’s expectations or myth of eternal mercy.

When you live with the feeling that the other person should “supplement” you, you begin to demand. Expect that he guesses, cure, replenish. And if it cannot, it is disappointed. Blame. Reject.

But no partner can make us happy if we ourselves do not feel whole.

It is the inner sense of value, stability and freedom that creates a strong foundation of relations. Then the other person does not become half - but a companion, friend, lover, ally. Those with whom it is good not because it is bad without it, but because together-interesting, warm and real.

It is time to leave the myth of halves in fairy tales. And in real life to learn to be yourself - and next to another, as whole, alive and present.