Many perceive it as an alarm. If it became bored, then love has passed. So something is wrong. Sometimes this causes panic and the desire to urgently change something: to start conflicts, look for “acute sensations” or even think about the gap.

But boredom in a relationship does not always mean a problem. It can be a natural stage. When two people become closer, much between them becomes predictable. The novelty disappears, but stability appears. And this is normal.

In a long -term connection, boredom is not an enemy, but an occasion to listen. What exactly causes this feeling? Monotony in everyday life? Lack of emotional contact? Loss of interest in communication? Or just fatigue from constant haste and routine, which partners bring to relations from the outside?

It is important to distinguish: boredom can be familiar that the couple needs to update the communication format, in joint impressions, in emotional rebooting. Or maybe a signal that one of the partners has long been feeling removal, but does not dare to say it.

Sometimes boredom is not about a partner, but about the internal state of the person himself. The fact that he was bored in his life as a whole. And trying to compensate for this through a relationship.

Boredom is an invitation to research, not panic. This is a point where you can begin to build a new quality of intimacy: to speak deeper, to dream more boldly, to be conscious.

Relations are not a constant holiday. This is a living process in which there are waves. And if boredom has appeared, it is important not to ignore it, but not to be afraid. Often, it is behind this feeling that the opportunity is hidden - to become even closer.