So, spoiler - yes, a single mother can be happy. Very happy. And now I'll tell you how this is possible - honestly, warmly and without glossy pathos.
💪 ACCEPT: I'M NOT A VICTIM, I'M A HEROINE
You are not "poor-unhappy-alone". You are a woman who does the impossible: raises a child, copes with everyday life, makes decisions, decides “where to get winter boots and pay for a club”, while trying not to forget her name.
You are nothing less than a superhero.
Only without a cape. But with a ponytail, unfinished coffee and bags under the eyes.
Happiness begins with the awareness of your value.
Do not look up at life, but straight into the eyes.
DO NOT FORGET ABOUT THE WOMAN INSIDE
Motherhood is forever. But the woman inside is also forever.
And she needs attention. No, not a spa every week (although, if you can - go ahead!). But simple things:
Wash not in a hurry, but with pleasure
Put on a dress just like that, and not for a reason
Read a book while the child is sleeping
Put yourself a cup of coffee and turn on your favorite song
A woman who feels beautiful is already happier.
Even if she has a five-year-old Tornado and a cat with a character.
ALLOW YOURSELF TO LOVE (AND BE LOVED)
You don't have to "close your heart." Not all men are the same, not all relationships end in tears.
You don't have to look for someone. But if you meet someone, don't push them away just because "I have a child."
A worthy person will accept the child, your everyday life, and even cartoons in the background of the evening.
And if you want love, you have the right to it.
Being a mother doesn't mean being lonely.
FIND YOUR Flock
One mother is good.
But two is already support.
And three is a small army in case of: "The stroller broke, the tea ran out, and the child has a test."
Find friends (online, on the playground, in clubs)
Chat with those who don't "pity" you, but inspire you
Don't be afraid to ask for help - it's not weakness, it's wisdom
Happiness is also about the people around you. Even if they are still in a WhatsApp chat.
DO NOT POSTPONE DREAMS FOR "LATER"
The child will grow up.
And the question will remain: "Where was I in this life?"
Study, dance, try, change the sphere, take risks - show yourself and your child that a mother can be happy not after, but in the process.
CONCLUSION
Happiness is not an ideal picture from an advertisement.
It is when you go to bed and feel calm inside.
When you look at your child - and smile.
When in the morning you want not only to wake up, but also to live.
You can be a mother.
You can be a woman.
You can be happy. And this does not contradict anything.