Men love to wrap the truth beautifully in a wrapper 🎁. The phrase "I'm not ready for something serious" sounds soft, almost caring, as if he's worried that you don't have any illusions 🤷‍♀️. But behind it hides a simple and cold "you're not the one for whom I'm ready to give up my bachelor luxury."
He's ready for noisy parties 🥂, for endless "bachelor parties" for no reason, for spontaneous trips, for someone else's lips 💋 at three in the morning and for breakfasts with anyone but you. He is ready to write to others, like others, flirt with others... But he is not ready to hold your hand 🤝 when you are feeling bad, and to be there when you are feeling good.
And the funniest thing is that he is quite ready to spend his time and attention, as long as it is easy and fun. As long as no one expects responsibility, deep steps, real involvement from him. Ready for everything... except your value, except for the real "we".
But this is not a tragedy 🌹. This is a filter, and it works in time. The world politely, albeit cynically, lets you know: there is no point in wasting your heart here. Because the one who is truly ready does not hide it behind words. He just takes and stays. Always.