We become part of each other, forgetting who we are actually, what is important to us and what are our personal needs. This can lead to burnout, internal discomfort and loss of identity. But how to be "together" without losing yourself? How to maintain personal boundaries when relations require attention and understanding?

Here are several ways to learn how to be near, not forgetting about yourself:

1. Clearly realize your boundaries

The first step towards preserving personal boundaries is the awareness of what is important to you. Sometimes we do not know where our personal boundaries go, because we did not think about them. To do this, you need to understand what causes you discomfort, what you are ready to accept and what is not. It can be both physical boundaries (for example, your personal space) and emotional (for example, expectations from a partner or the level of proximity that is comfortable for you). Ask yourself questions: what is unacceptable to me in a relationship? How do I want to be respected?

2. Open communicate about your needs

One of the most important aspects of healthy relationships is communication. When my partner and I openly discuss our expectations, preferences and boundaries, it becomes easier to understand each other and avoid misunderstandings. Do not be afraid to share what you need. This is not selfishness, but the need for preserving mental balance. Tell the partner when you need to be alone, or what is important for you, so that you both observe a certain regime. An honest conversation about your needs is a guarantee that your boundaries will be respected.

3. Learning to say no "

Many of us avoid conflict and try to please the partner, even if it goes to the detriment of our own interests. But it is important to remember that saying “no” is normal. This does not mean that you do not like or do not care about a person. This means that you respect yourself and your feelings. When you do not want to do something that contradicts your personal boundaries, it is important to say this directly. This will help to avoid grievances and discontent, and the relationship will remain healthy.

4. Balancing a joint time and time for yourself

Even in the most harmonious relationships, it is important to have your space. Constant stay together can lead to a feeling of loss of personal freedom. Preservation of a hobby, meetings with friends and personal interests helps to maintain inner harmony. No need to abandon your hobbies or spend all your free time with a partner. This is important not only for you, but also for relations - when each partner can develop as a person, relationships become more interesting and saturated.

Learning to be “together” without losing personal boundaries - this is about respect. Respect for yourself and respect for the partner. This is about a healthy relationship in which everyone can be themselves, develop and support each other without dissolving in another person. Healthy boundaries create a space for trust, respect and real proximity. It is important to remember: in order to be happy with another person, you must first be honest with yourself.