I myself thinking for a long time: "If he is not perfect, then this is not my man." But the experience showed: the ideal can be beautiful on paper, but empty in life. A real man is one who is nearby in difficult times, who supports, who knows how to listen and share joys and cares. He does not have to be perfect, but he is real.

How to understand whether it is worth choosing a real person? First, pay attention to his values and goals. If a man respects you, your boundaries and share the basic views on life - this is much more important than growth, salary or the number of subscribers on social networks.

Secondly, look at emotional returns. An ideal man may seem attractive, but if next to him you do not feel joy, support and lightness, this is an empty game. A real man, albeit with his shortcomings, is able to give heat, attention and real proximity.

Thirdly, evaluate the ability to communicate and resolve conflicts. Ideals do not always know how to cope with difficulties, and real people show how they are prepared to be around in difficult moments. The ability to listen, negotiate and care is signs of maturity and real readiness for relations.

My advice: Looking for not perfection, but harmony. Love is not a fairy tale about a prince on a white horse, but real communication, support and respect. It is better to be with a person who is real than waiting for the ideal that may not appear. And even if he is not ideal 100%, but if he makes you happy, respects you and seeks to be near - this is enough for a real relationship.

Remember: happiness is not ideally, but in finding someone who is ready to go near you, support and share life, with all its joys and difficulties.