Silence can be warm. Imagine the evening when two people are sitting nearby, they say nothing, but they feel calm and intimacy. At such moments, the words are too. No monologue will replace the feeling that you are next to those who understand you without explanation. This silence does not scare, but on the contrary - gives confidence and warmth. It becomes evidence that real proximity does not require constant dialogue.

But there is another silence - anxious. When resentment is accumulating in the couple, but no one dares to speak, the silence turns into a wall. It no longer unites, but moves away. In it is heard inadvertency, cold and detachment. Such silence often hurts more sharply, because it hints: something is wrong, but there is no explanation.

Why is silence so strong? The fact is that it creates a space for interpretation. In words, everything is clear: they mean emotion or thought. But in silence, a person hears what he is afraid of or what he is waiting. To one she seems to be a sign of acceptance, the other is a sign of indifference. Therefore, silence is so ambiguous: it reflects not only the mood of the partner, but also the internal state of the one who perceives him.

In relations, it is important to learn to distinguish between these shades. Sometimes it is better to keep silent than to say excess. In a fit of anger, words can hurt more than planned. In such moments, silence helps to cool down and not destroy what is important. But you can’t constantly hide behind silence. If it becomes a way to avoid problems, intimacy and trust suffer.

The power of silence is that it is honest. It cannot be disguised as beautiful phrases. It is either warm or there is cold. And it is felt right away, even without words. That is why it is so important in a relationship not only to speak, but also to be able to listen to the silence - the one that connects, and the one that warns.

Silence is not an enemy if it is filled with understanding. Sometimes it speaks louder than any words: about trust, about acceptance, about real proximity. But it becomes dangerous when it hides resentment and understatement in itself. Real harmony is the ability to find a balance: to speak when necessary, and be silent when the words are really superfluous.