“I’m just looking for a good girl” — and 25 points of requirements below

Such men fill out the questionnaire with a list of wishes:

no “drama” (but they can disappear for a week without explanation),

well-groomed (but they haven’t seen the gym in a long time),

to cook, understand, not be jealous, support, motivate…

And all this — without a single hint of what they are ready to give in return.

These are not partners — they are consumers of emotions, attention and female energy who come “to see, maybe something will work out”. But nothing works out, because no one wants to invest — neither time, nor respect, nor elementary sincerity.

They don’t want a “woman for life” — they want comfort without effort

Instead of real actions — phrases:

“I just don’t want to force anything.”

“Let’s see where communication will lead us.”

“I’m not ready for a relationship, but if everything works out, then why not.”

And at some point you catch yourself thinking: I’m not tired of dating — I’m tired of indifference disguised as calm.

When demands are a mirror of insecurity

The paradox is that the most demanding have the least to give. Their demands are often an attempt to compensate for their own fears: fear of intimacy, fear of rejection, fear of not being “enough.”

And this is evident from the first messages: depreciation, sarcasm, ironic “adequacy checks.”

But the woman who is tired is not to blame

The woman who says “I’m tired of explaining that I deserve respect” is not cynical, heartless, or “raising the bar.”

She simply stopped agreeing to the minimum, which for some reason is passed off as the “norm.”

We all want simple things — attention, honesty, participation. And if someone isn’t ready to even try — it’s not our fault, it’s their immaturity.

💬 In the end

Sometimes it’s better to take a break. Put down the apps, stop swiping, and remind yourself: real relationships don’t start with demands, but with reciprocity.