Hey everyone! 👋

So, lately, I've been doing a lot of thinking (probably too much!). As a Ukrainian girl living in sunny Spain, I've been reflecting on relationships, love, and what people really want in a partner. And… I’m starting to wonder if my natural inclination towards being kind, sweet, and honest is actually a disadvantage. 🤨

I'd describe myself as someone who genuinely tries to see the best in people. I value honesty above almost everything, I'm a loyal friend, and I always try to act with kindness. I believe that being a good person is fundamentally important. It’s who I am. It’s how my parents raised me. It’s part of my Ukrainian soul. 🇺🇦

But, here's the thing… When it comes to dating, I sometimes feel like these qualities aren't exactly what men are looking for. 🤔 Are they even valued anymore?

I see so many relationships around me that seem to thrive on drama, games, and a certain level of… well, let's just call it "complicatedness." 🙄 I see people who chase after partners who are emotionally unavailable, or who constantly create chaos. And… I just don’t get it.

I mean, is it really that boring to have someone who is straightforward, reliable, and genuinely cares? Is being "too nice" a turn-off? 😩

Maybe I'm missing something. Maybe men are wired differently. Maybe they are secretly craving a challenge, a puzzle to solve, or a partner who keeps them on their toes with unexpected twists and turns. Or maybe the common idea that "nice guys finish last" is true…? 🤷‍♀️

I can’t help but wonder, if I try to become a "bad girl," I risk losing myself. I don't want to play games or be manipulative. It just doesn't feel authentic to who I am. But does that mean I destined to be alone?

Living here in Spain, I see also another kind of relationship, like here people appreciate a laid back and simple communication. The warmth of the country is visible in relationships. However, they also are looking for passion and charisma.

I’ve started sometimes thinking, that maybe, the problem is me, not the men I'm meeting, ha ha.

So, I'm putting it out there: What do you think? 🙏

Guys, what do YOU look for in a relationship? Is kindness, honesty, and a genuine connection something you value? Or are you drawn to something else entirely?

I'm genuinely curious to hear your thoughts and experiences. Let's have an open and honest discussion! I want to understand the world better, and maybe, just maybe, find a little bit of clarity for myself. 💖

Thanks for reading! And remember, even if things feel confusing sometimes, always stay true to yourself. ✨

With love from sunny Spain,
Natalia
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