It's beautiful to want to create warmth and peace for someone else, but what if I'm using that desire to escape from the harder work of becoming a complete person? What if I'm already deciding what my role will be before I've even figured out who I actually am? 💭

The best thing for me might be to stop thinking so much about what I'll be for someone else and start thinking about who I want to be for myself. To develop myself. To find my own strength, my own voice, my own purpose. Because a woman who's whole and real and grounded can actually give someone real warmth and real peace. But a woman who's just trying to fit into a role? That's not peace. That's performance. 😔

I still believe in what I said before. I still think there's something beautiful and spiritual about supporting someone. But maybe the order is wrong. Maybe first I need to know myself. Maybe first I need to build myself into someone I respect. Then, if that time comes, I can actually give something real instead of just giving up who I was trying to become. 🌟

What if the greatest gift I could give someone is actually a woman who knows herself, who respects herself, and who chooses to stand beside him from a place of wholeness instead of need?

Margusha 💝