But I'm starting to understand that I can't just walk into that role as a blank slate waiting for someone to fill it. That's not understanding and concession. That's just erasure. 💕

What's best for me right now is to develop myself fully. To discover what I love. To get educated. To figure out what I think about things, not just what I've been told to think. To make mistakes and learn from them. To become a woman who is interesting and whole and sure of herself. 🌟

Because here's the thing: a good wife isn't a woman who gives up everything of herself. A good wife is a woman who knows exactly what she's choosing to prioritize and why. She's not confused about sacrifice—she understands it. She knows the difference between choosing something and being forced into it. And she can only make that choice genuinely if she actually knows what she's giving priority to.

So maybe the best version of me isn't the girl who's ready to concede and understand right now. Maybe it's the girl who says, "I need to become someone real first. Someone with her own thoughts and experiences and dreams. And then, when I'm ready, I can choose what to build with someone else—and that choice will actually mean something." 💪

What if being a good wife starts with being a good self first?