But I'm realizing that before you can be faithful to anyone else, you have to be faithful to what you know is true about yourself. You have to protect your own integrity the way you would protect someone you love.

I think about young women I know who are so eager to be faithful to the wrong ideas about themselves. They believe they're not worthy. They believe they should accept less. They believe that commitment means surrendering who they are. And that's a kind of infidelity too—infidelity to their own souls. 💫

What's best for me right now is to be radically faithful to my convictions while staying open to being wrong about things. To hold my faith deeply while learning from people who believe differently. To know what I believe about commitment and fidelity while also listening to the lived experience of people who have walked different paths. 🕯️

The most Catholic thing I can do is not judge others for their choices, but live so fully into my own convictions that my life becomes a kind of quiet witness. Not preachy. Not superior. Just real. Just honest. Just showing through how I live that fidelity creates something beautiful—without needing to convince anyone else that it should. 🤍

I think the deepest fidelity might actually be this: staying true to yourself and your beliefs, even when the world tells you those beliefs are outdated. Especially then.

Can you love people who don't believe what you believe and still hold your own beliefs uncompromisingly? I think that's the real question I need to answer. 💎