"You don't understand what I'm going through." And yes, okay, people are complicated. People are struggling. I get it. But at some point, your past stops being an explanation and becomes an excuse, and I don't know when exactly that line is crossed, but I know I've seen people live firmly on the excuse side 💔

What frustrates me is the lack of accountability. The way people hurt you and then expect sympathy for their struggle. The way someone can be cruel and then follow it up with "I'm dealing with a lot right now" like that erases what they just did. Like I'm supposed to absorb their pain while they ignore mine 😠

I watch relationships deteriorate because one person keeps saying sorry but keeps doing the same things. Over and over. And the other person keeps accepting the apology because they want to believe in change, want to believe in the person they love. But eventually you realize: this isn't love, this is a pattern. And you're not a therapist. You're not responsible for fixing someone 🚫

There's a difference between having compassion for someone's struggle and accepting mistreatment. There's a difference between understanding why someone acts a certain way and tolerating behavior that hurts you repeatedly. I think a lot of people confuse these things. They think understanding someone's trauma gives that person the right to traumatize them 💢

I've learned that real accountability looks like: recognizing the harm, genuinely understanding why you did it, changing the behavior that caused the harm, and proving through consistent action that you've changed. Not words. Action. Not promises. Evidence. Not apologies repeated endlessly with no change. Actual transformation 💪

The people I respect most aren't the ones who never mess up. They're the ones who mess up, face it head-on, do the work to change, and genuinely become different. Those people are rare. Most people just want to be forgiven without doing the work 😒

I'm tired of people who say things like "I'm a work in progress" as if that means they get infinite chances to hurt people while they figure themselves out. We're all a work in progress. We all have things to learn. But that doesn't mean your growth gets to happen at someone else's expense 🛑

Why do we celebrate people for trying but give them passes for not actually changing? When did attempting to be better become the same as being better? 💭