That the strongest thing you can do is be completely self-sufficient. That the moment you need something from someone else, you've somehow failed at independence.

But I think that's lonely. And I think it's actually dishonest. 💭

We're social creatures. We need each other. That's not weakness—that's design. The question isn't whether you need people; the question is whether you can be honest about it.

I think about the women in my family again, and what strikes me is that they didn't hide their needs. They didn't pretend to be fine when they weren't. But they also didn't fall apart when someone couldn't meet that need. They had a kind of dignity about it—they knew what they needed, they asked for it, and they respected themselves enough to keep going whether they got it or not.

That's different from desperation. That's grace. 🙏

I've watched women destroy themselves trying to prove they don't need anyone. Trying to do everything alone. Trying to be so strong that they become hard. And I don't think that's strength—I think it's armor, and there's a difference.

Real strength is being soft enough to need things and strong enough to know you'll be okay either way.

I want to be with someone where needing each other is just... the deal. Where I can say "I need you" without shame, and he can say it too. Where vulnerability isn't weakness but a kind of intimacy. Where our needs fit together instead of competing. 💪

That doesn't mean I lose myself. It means I add him to myself. I become bigger, not smaller.

Does the idea of needing someone feel dangerous to you, or does it feel like something human?