In my little life of experiences; it seems that whatever came easily also was easily lost. The things and relationships I really had to work hard for were the ones worth keeping. You know the old saying, "Easy come; easy go!" seems to be true. Love has always been the one thing I had to work so hard for and then, to keep also! But it was always worth the hard work, because the sweet enjoyment was always a success that both my Love and I enjoyed together. I'm not saying this is for everyone, but it could be for you, right? The more you put into something, whether it's love or effort, doesn't it become worth more to you? A woman's sweet heart and soul are the most valuable and beautiful things in this world. As men, we don't seem to treasure and cherish our women enough at all. How and why this gets away from us, I'll never understand. Personally, I can find some reason, no matter how small or fleeting, to love any and every woman in this world. To me, they are the Mothers of all that is beautiful in the world. The big difference is that though I may love them, I can't be 'in love' with them all and I need both for a relationship. 'In Love' is the fire and excitement and the adoration I feel, and 'The Love' is what grows within you and becomes the depth that lasts the lifetime. Love itself is the 'best friend and the great understanding part, the belief from within that allows the Beloved to be known and Cherished and treasured. Both can be consuming and that is sometimes needed to show your feelings as passion, at particular times whether sexual, empathetic, or simply loving. Oh, there's so much to be learned and kept in mind and heart and soul. And Love is what makes Life, worthwhile,.... believe me, I'm living a 'nothing existence' without it now, and I know firsthand... Love is Lived.
I truly hope this helps someone even a little, even if it just gives you another way to think of it. With enough love, given and received, you can do anything!
I wish we all, could find our special Loves and have the best Christmas and New Year's of all our Lives.....Peace!
Ray.