Pitfalls of the “perfect list”

I want to draw your attention to how often at the beginning of the year we try to approach the search for a partner as a business project. We compile lists of necessary qualities: status, income, absence of bad habits, common hobbies. Logic is our defense mechanism; it helps weed out obviously unsuitable options.

But I will share with you an important observation: sometimes a person completely checks all the boxes on the list, but on a date you feel inexplicably bored or cold. Logic sees the facade, but it is not able to fix the absence of “chemistry”, without which even the most correct union eventually turns into a heavy duty.

Intuition as accumulated experience

Many people tend to consider intuition as something mystical, but I want to tell you about it from the other side. In fact, our subconscious mind reads thousands of small signals: facial expressions, tone of voice, manner of communication with the waiter - everything that logic has not yet had time to process. I will share with you the idea that the intuitive “something is wrong here” is often the result of our internal computer, which has already recognized the destructive scenario.

In the new year, I advise you not to dismiss your first impression. If your body shrinks when communicating and silent alarms go off inside, no amount of logical arguments about being a “good person” should force you to stay in the relationship.

Golden mean in 2026

I often think that the ideal choice of a partner occurs at the intersection of these two lines. In the New Year, I will share with you my approach: Use logic to identify red flags and core values, but let your intuition have the final say. Let logic answer the question “Is this person safe and reliable?”, and let intuition tell you: “Do I feel warm next to him?”

Remember that intuition is not about momentary passion, but about inner peace. In 2026, I wish you to learn to hear precisely this quiet voice, which, among hundreds of profiles and faces, will help you recognize the very person with whom you want to meet not only this January, but also many subsequent ones.