There's a category of men who retreat into silence, as if into another room, closing the door behind them and living there for a while. Not because they're angry, not because they've fallen out of love, but because they need some space inside their heads.

We often perceive this as an alarm signal: "Something's wrong," "I made a mistake," "He's changed his mind." But in reality, 70% of the time, it's simply his way of rebooting. A man's brain sometimes works like an old laptop; to open the next tab, he needs to close the previous ones and give the fan a rest.

When he's silent for more than three or four hours (and especially if it's been a day or two), the most powerful thing you can do is not batter down that closed door with questions like, "Are you offended?", "Is everything okay?", or "Did I say something wrong?" Instead, you can simply leave a small, warm trace so he knows the door isn't locked from this side.

A message like:
"I baked those nut muffins you liked today. I saved one in case you decide to go out in public 😄"
or
"I bought some new chamomile and mint tea. They say it helps calm my head. Would you like to join me tonight and brew some?"

This isn't pressure. It's simply a reminder that you haven't disappeared and that you still feel good around him, even with the silent treatment.

Is that true, dear man?

Inna