I’ve learned that the real issue is passivity.

Many people like the idea of long-distance relationships because they feel safe.
You can talk when it’s convenient.
Disappear when it’s not.
And still call it “connection.”

That’s not love.

Real relationships require presence — emotional, mental, and practical.
If distance exists, effort has to increase, not decrease.

I pay attention to actions.
Does the person make time despite different schedules?
Do they plan meetings instead of just talking about them?
Do they show consistency when it’s inconvenient?

Words travel easily across distance.
Commitment doesn’t.

I don’t believe in waiting indefinitely without direction.
I don’t believe in promises that never turn into plans.
And I don’t believe that feelings alone can replace effort.

Long-distance can work — but only when both people are intentional.
When communication is regular, honest, and focused on progress.
When there is a clear desire to close the distance, not romanticize it.

I want a relationship that moves forward.
Not one that stays suspended in “someday.”

Distance without effort is just comfort disguised as hope.
And I’m no longer interested in that.