"he is simply obliged to fulfill all the whims of his madam"

He is not obligated. He wants to. His happiness is derived from her happiness. Nothing thrills a man more than knowing his beloved is happy.
Nothing dejects him more than knowing she isn't.

Yes, I believe in equality of the sexes. But equality is not sameness. This equality is complimentary: you have a key, you have a lock. One has no purpose without the other. Are they the same? No. Are they of equal importance? Yes.

This is a concept that few seem to understand.

I do not wish to be anyone's master. I seek a partner, a best friend, a co - conspirator, if you will, a compliment. :-)

This is not to say that we don't have roles in our relationship.

Perhaps one is the breadwinner and the other handles domestic issues. This does not mean that the breadwinner is superior, it's just his role.

My wife made $100k USD a year. That was twice what I made. She did not claim superiority over me because of this. She came to me for advice and to make certain decisions. I felt that, although our roles were different, they were equal.

How do you measure this equality? Upon what criteria do you base it?

Seek a compliment to yourself. You are no one's doormat. If you are, your mate will soon lose respect for you, and eventually leave, even though he initially thinks that he wants a doormat.

David