When entering into a new relationship, many confuse a feeling of deep attachment with the desire to "save." The savior syndrome is when you see your partner as a "project" and spend your resources solving their problems, financial debts, or pulling them out of depression.

This has its (illusory) advantages. The savior feels important and indispensable. It seems you're building a strong bond through crises, proving your love through actions.

But the disadvantages are far greater. First, you deprive your partner of the opportunity to mature. Second, such relationships are built not on respect, but on codependency. As soon as you stop "saving," the reason to be together disappears. You risk ending up not in a relationship, but in the unpaid position of a psychologist or sponsor.

New relationships need a sense of ease. If you're already "dragging" someone else along at the start, ask yourself: is this love or a desire to be needed? A healthy union is only possible between two whole people, not between the rescuer and the one being rescued!