The danger of “emotional dependence”

Dissolution in another person is an illusion of security. It seems to us: if we become one, we will never be abandoned, we will always be interested in each other. In fact, by giving up personal space, we lose that unique “spark” that initially attracted our partner to us. Love lives at a distance between two individuals. Once you become one, the distance disappears, and with it the tension necessary for passion and deep interest.

Your partner fell in love with a person with his own opinion, his own hobbies and his own social circle. By depriving yourself of all this, you become a less interesting interlocutor, turning into a convenient “shadow” of your partner.

Why selfishness is the fuel for relationships

Healthy selfishness is not about neglecting the feelings of others. It's about realizing that you are two adults who chose to be together, but did not become each other's property.

When you return from a workout, from a hike with friends, or from doing something you love, you bring new experiences, new emotions, and that same “you” into the relationship that makes your partner look at you with admiration. Relationships in which each partner has his own life are much more stable and stronger than those where both frantically cling to each other for fear of being left alone.

In March, when nature is actively renewing itself, allow yourself the luxury of being yourself. A couple is not the sum of two halves, but a union of two full-fledged individuals. And the brighter and more interesting the life of each of you, the stronger your attraction to each other.