And the most interesting thing is that on the outside you seem to be close. But on the inside you seem to have moved away a little.

I thought for a long time that it was about indifference. Honestly. That if a person moves away in a difficult moment — it means that he doesn’t care. But the more I observe, the more I doubt that everything is so simple.

Because sometimes it seems that you are not leaving us…
you are leaving from tension.

From conflict.
From emotions that become too loud.
From a situation where there is no quick solution.

As if there is a need inside: “I can’t resolve this now — so it’s better to leave.”

But the problem is that for a woman it is often read differently.

Not as “I need to think.”

But as “I don’t want to be around.”

And here the same cracks in the relationship begin. Not because of the conflict itself. But because of the distance after it.

Because at such moments, women usually care about something else — not the perfect solution, but contact. Understanding that you have not disappeared emotionally, even if it is difficult for you.

And I am not talking about someone being right and someone being wrong. I am really interested in understanding.

Are you distancing yourself because it's easier to deal with your emotions?
Or because you need more space to avoid saying too much?
Or is it just a way to maintain control over the situation?

Because on the outside it looks like coldness.
But maybe on the inside it's not cold at all.

Maybe on the contrary it's a way to avoid breaking what's important.

And then the main question arises...

How do you find a balance between your need for silence and our need for closeness in difficult moments?

I really want to hear honest answers.

Because sometimes it seems that we don't fight because of problems.
But because we experience these problems differently.

And if we understand this - maybe you can't lose much... 💭